Missing out on family events. Going abroad part II.
This past Saturday (April 22 2023),my family in Brazil celebrated my Aunt Aurora's 99th birthday with a huge party. Over 100 family members attended, but unfortunately, I couldn't go because I am currently living in China. This is the price one has to pay when living abroad - missing out on family events. Many students ask me if I miss my family, and the answer is obviously yes. Although I know that I will see them again, I may miss some important events while I'm away. For example I remember missing my sister´s wedding while I was living in USA.
One thing to consider is that it may be easier to make the decision to go abroad when you're single. In my case, I got divorced, and I remember a family event in 2014 that I decided not to attend because I was very depressed because of my divorce.
Some people miss home so much that they don't even finish their one-year plan to live abroad. Living abroad is not the same as taking a vacation, and if you're married, going with your family can make you feel less alone. As for me, I have enjoyed living abroad. This is my third time going abroad for a long period of time (I am in China for almost 5 years now). After my divorce this was something that made me excited again. Coming to China was a new beginning and part of my healing process.
In conclusion, living abroad can be challenging, especially when you miss important family events. However, it can also be a rewarding experience that can help you grow and heal. It's important to consider your personal situation and whether or not living abroad is right for you. Ultimately, a good place is where you feel okay and happy, and there is no perfect place in the world.